I'm not an alpha, though I like to play one in the bedroom sometimes. I guess I am what most people would call a "total top" but I'm not some super macho action hero. In my 30 years on this earth, I have simply never had a desire to suck cock or get fucked. We all do things in the bedroom that we don't exactly love doing because we love the person we are doing it with. That doesn't mean I'll enjoy it! And that doesn't mean I want to do it. In longterm relationships, if that is something the person I love really, really wants, then yeah, I'll man up and do it. That doesn't mean that I have never sucked cock or that I won't ever do it in the future. I don't think sucking cock is degrading or makes you less of a man. I don't consider myself a 'bro' or have internalized homophobia. I don't like to suck cock, but it isn't because of the implied reasons in this thread. We've been fuckbuddies now for about 15 years. And has he learned a thing or two from me along the way! His oral skills are 100 times what they were when we met. He tells me I'm the best cocksucker he's ever had, and before me, he didn't really even enjoy oral. He was so turned on when he felt me swallow that he nearly shot right then, and in fact, when I'm in the mood for a quickie (and I do mean like I have 5 minutes and have to go), I'll just blow him and tell him to go for it. So I went down on him, and while he was still in that state of semi-softness, I swallowed his dick and it immediately got rock hard.
He said he was so big that most guys couldn't do much orally for him. The first time we hooked up, I thought something might be wrong or he wasn't into me, and didn't seem to be into getting his dick sucked all that much, but I asked him if I could anyway. Always starts out with barely semi-hard, which is good because he's huge. Awesome, awesome for fucking as that fat head scraped right up against my prostate and made me leak precum the whole time he fucked me, but impossible to really suck. One, his dick was rock hard from the moment he took off his undies (well, after a bit of foreplay while clothed.) and his dick has a slight upward curve. Let me illustrate with a tale of two fuckbuddies. Maybe it's just the dicks that this guy has come up against, so to speak.